Even when you're juggling kids and laundry and dinner and cleaning and social media posts and coaching calls and writing blogs...and...and...and...you may still feel like you're not doing enough because you're a driven, ambitious Mamapreneur. And even worse, you may feel like everything you do needs to be perfect.
The truth is, no one is perfect...and you ARE doing enough.
And today, we're going to talk about the importance of giving yourself permission to be human. More specifically, I am going to give you four permissions to help you get out of survival mode and enjoy your days.
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Hey Mama, welcome back to another episode of redefining motherhood, the podcast that helps work from home Mamapreneur has loved their lives as much as they love their kids, when you're juggling kids and laundry, and dinner and cleaning and social media posts and coaching calls and writing blogs, and, and, and, oh, it's so easy to feel like you have to be perfect all the time. The truth is no one is perfect. And today we're going to talk about the importance of giving yourself permission to be human. More specifically, I'm going to give you four permissions to help you get out of survival mode and enjoy your days. Welcome to redefining motherhood. The podcast is all about embracing the messy, beautiful and challenging journey of being a mama while building a business. I'm your host, Lynn Turcotte-Schuh de Lyonne trainer turned mama mentor and founder of The Happy Mama Wellness community Mamapreneur ship isn't always sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes it's more like a never ending game of Whack a Mole constantly putting out fires and juggling a million things at once. But here's the thing, you're not alone, we are normalizing talking about the unique challenges of being a Mamapreneur breaking down the stigma that says we should have it all together and creating a safe space where we can share our experiences without judgment. So grab a cup of coffee, or Chai, and join us for honest conversation helpful tips and lots of laughs as we navigate this crazy wonderful thing called motherhood. As a Mamapreneur, you wear so many hats. You're a business owner, a mom, a wife, a friend, a daughter, and so much more. With all of these roles, it's easy to forget about yourself, you put everyone else at the top of the list and you end up at the bottom if you're even on the list at all. So permission number one is to prioritize yourself. This doesn't mean you have to neglect your kids or your home or your business, it just means that you need to be number one on the to do list. Have you ever heard of the oxygen mask analogy. So when you're flying, like in an airplane, which I don't really like to do, but I have to force myself to do sometimes I've heard this script over and over. When you're out there flying, the attendant instructs you that in case of emergency oxygen masks will fall from the ceiling. And you're supposed to put your mask on first before helping others with theirs. This is because if you're passed out from lack of oxygen, you're not going to be good to anybody else, especially your kid. So I know it's really hard. I know it's hard as moms, we want to make sure our kids have everything, and that all their needs are met. And then society throws the default parenting expectations our way. And then we have this business stuff demanding our energy and attention. But if we don't put our mask on first, we're no good to any of these people. I'm not saying you have to go to the spa every week, unless you want to make the time to do so I mean, there's no judgement here. But prioritizing yourself might look like having a glass of water right when you wake up to make sure you start your day off hydrated, or making sure to sit down with the kids when they eat breakfast. So you actually eat your meal while it's still hot. Or if it's a cereal morning before it all turns to mush. It might look like taking a yoga class, getting a massage or taking a bubble bath, whatever it is, do something that makes you feel good. Do something that fills your cup, I'm giving you permission. Number two is making mistakes. An important aspect of being human, you're probably used to doing everything yourself. You might feel like you have to meet exceptionally high standards all the time because you're a business owner. But the truth is mistakes happen. So instead of beating yourself up over every little mistake, give yourself permission to learn and grow from them. Mistakes are part of the learning process, and they can help you become a better business owner, a better mom and a better person. In fact, I'm going to challenge you to try and make mistakes. Okay, maybe that's taking it a little too far. I would if I challenge you to celebrate your mistakes. And our house fail is an acronym. It means first attempt in learning. If you're not making mistakes, you're not having failures. It means you're not growing. And all of us want to grow. So every mistake has a lesson to teach us even if that lesson is simply that we need to slow down. So make mistakes I'm giving you permission. Number three, humans need breaks. It's not just humans. It's all living things even dolphin To don't sleep the same way we do shut down half their brain at a time so that it has time to rest and repair. I know the Marine Mammal trainer Me is coming out, sometimes I can't help it. But my point is even animals that don't sleep, figure out ways to give their body breaks. So as a Mamapreneur, it's really easy to feel like you have to work around the clock sometimes to keep up with everything. But working nonstop can lead to burnout and exhaustion. And most of us are already exhausted just for motherhood, nevermind adding the business stuff on top of it. It's really important to take breaks to recharge your batteries. This might mean taking a day off or going on a vacation, or simply taking a walk outside in the middle of the day. Your mind, body and spirit will thank you for it. And I'm giving you permission. Permission number four is to ask for help. If you've been exposed to any sort of media over the course of your life, and I'm assuming you have because you're listening to me right now. You've seen the supermom that, you know, you know supermom, she's the mom in a business suit. With her hair all done up and her makeup all done up. She's wearing her high heels she got Bluetooth earbud in one year, she's holding her baby on her hip with her left arm and making a home cooked meal with her right hand. Like she makes us all look like failures. Here's the thing. She's a myth, like I said, the super bomb myth. But if you're still under her spell, then you probably think asking for help is a sign of weakness because, quote, unquote, you should be able to do it all. But you're wrong. Asking for help is actually a sign of strength. And supermom doesn't even exist. So that's a horrible model to try and live up to. So reach out to your friends, your family or a coach for support. And I'm going to insert a shameless plug here for my mama mentoring services. You can get more information on how to work with me directly on my website, which is happy mama wellness.com. The important thing to remember here is that you are not on this journey alone. There are so many people waiting to help you. All you need to do is ask and asking for that help can help you avoid burnout. And you guessed it, I'm giving you permission to listen. Being a mama is hard work. Being a Mamapreneur is even harder, but it's really important that you're also human. So please just give yourself permission to act like one. Until next time, Mama's day. And that's all for today's episode of redefining motherhood. I hope you enjoyed listening to our honest and candid conversations about the ups and downs of being a Mamapreneur. Remember, it's okay to not have it all figured out. We're all just doing the best we can and not enough. So give yourself a break mama, you're doing an amazing job. If you love today's episode, don't forget to leave us a review on your favorite podcast platform that helps us reach more moms who could use a little encouragement and support. And make sure to share this episode with a friend to give us a pick me up. We'll be back with more conversations about learning to love motherhood as much as we love our kids. So make sure to subscribe to our podcast so you never miss an episode. Until then keep on redefining motherhood for yourself and embracing all the messy, beautiful and sometimes challenging moments that come with it. Mama thanks